morals. ethics. values. beliefs. everybody has a system of thinking that they use to determine what is right and what is wrong. it doesn't matter if you are strictly religious or if you are a total rebel from all establishment, you view some things as right and some things as wrong. in my lifetime so far, i have noticed that people who are truly happy and at peace with themselves are people who live in accordance with their beliefs. why this is, i'm not exactly sure, but i do have a thought.
when you live according to your beliefs, you don't feel guilty about your decisions. i think this may be the single most important piece of the consistency puzzle. it's so important because there are several aspects to it.
1. if you are constantly second-guessing decisions you've made, you can't fully focus on the present (see first post on blog). if you aren't focused on the past, you can live in the moment, and if you can live in the moment, you can enjoy yourself and feel happiness (as long as you are presently making decisions that are consistent with your beliefs).
2. when you feel guilty about something, you tend to hide from your loved ones because you feel ashamed. this is not beneficial to your happiness because being around people you love makes you happy (even if it sometimes concurrently causes you to feel other things as well). if you're embarrassed about decisions you've made, and you don't want your loved ones to find out, you constantly feel worried that you'll get "caught." constant worrying does not equal happiness.
3. if you have inner turmoil because you've done something you don't feel is right, you will not be able to achieve inner peace. feeling at peace with yourself is detrimental to your happiness. if you don't feel good about yourself, you pass that on to others you interact with, whether it's friends, neighbors, coworkers, or even your family members. usually this causes the people closest to you to second-guess themselves, which definitely does not spread happiness.
when you make decisions that pair up with and complement your belief system, you feel confident, proud of yourself in your choice, and eager to share your accomplishment with others. you don't question your actions later, but you happily reminisce about your good decision and feel positive about yourself for the rest of the day. this is how happy memories are made. be confident. be bold. do your research and do the things that you believe to be right. this is my secret to happiness today.
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